Campbell Chapter, Order of DeMolay, July, 2000 Issue 121
This publication acknowledges allegiance and yields authority to DeMolay International of the Order of DeMolay, of which Frank S. Land was founder.
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On May 7th Nick, Steve, and myself left for the Shriners Hospital and met Jason and Parker. We left at 8:00am and arrived at 11:00am and waited for 30 minutes to meet Jason and Parker, but they were for some reason not there. We decided to leave after not seeing the others, but after another ½ hour Jason called us on Nick’s cell phone and told us that they had finally arrived and for us to turn around and come back for the tour. Nick was already ½ hour outside the city, so this really pleased Nick!
When we met the others, we took the tour of the Shriners Hospital. During the tour, we saw a room where the burn victims would put masks on their burns. There were also three types of apartments within the hospital, small, medium, and large. They included a small refrigerator, 2 beds, a microwave, a T.V. and a patio! However, only one parent was allowed to stay with their child during the time in the hospital. We also went into a room for children with fake arms or legs to help them rehabilitate, and a tubroom to test them if they are ready to go home and not need any assistance.
There was also a train model of the entire city built on one of the floors with the hospital in the middle of it. The hospital also had some really cool things about it that other hospitals don’t. One was that the hospital had a theme for it, and that was space. There were pictures of space ships, carpets with stars and planets, and their walls were painted different colors. One wall had a dentist paint a mural in the entrance. There were also video games, a pool table, and a play place for the children. There were also 2 libraries in the hospital. One was for the adults to read about what had happened to their child. The other library was for the doctors.
It was also said that there are more volunteers working there then paid workers. Almost 800 people are volunteers there, and it showed that the people of the community really want to help out children with their disabilities.
After the tour we left feeling better that there is a Shriners Hospital near us, and left for home. Before we left however, we donated our $50 check to the hospital, which pleased our shriner tour-guide, Mr. Don Albin very much. We were also told that everything the hospital does is 100% free. Everyone who comes in to get treatment gets it for free. There is only one cash register in the hospital and that was in the cafeteria.
It’s definitely a place to go visit and learn about people’s disabilities. Next time we go there you should go too, because I know you would enjoy it.
Each one of us is part of a team. The team can be a class, a church group, a DeMolay chapter, a family, a sports team, a Boy Scout troop, a marching band, or one of thousands of other groups. As a team member, you can be an asset to the team, or a liability. The difference often is pretty minor! But living up to what you have said you would do is very important for every team, because if you do not, then somebody else on the team has to do your work, or maybe your part just does not get done.
We all live with situations where we become unable to live up to expectations. We have expectations that we place on ourselves, expectations that other people place on us, and general expectations which “society” places on us. In each of these situations, we sometimes find that we are unable to live up to the expectations. That means somebody is going to disappointed.
Disappointments might be minor – such as having to wait ten minutes extra – or major, such as having to cancel an event and losing time and money. Sometimes an event is a “one time” event. That means it will never again happen. These are things such as graduations, baptisms, weddings, funerals, or special honors. Sometimes they are recurring things, such as a special meal which was prepared, or a trip to Great America.
When we disappoint somebody, or a group of people, we usually have some kind of “reason.” The reason may appear to be quite reasonable to us, but not really fair to the other person. If you have made a date with Suzy to take her to a movie on Friday night, but on Friday afternoon at 4:00 p.m. you get a call from a buddy who has an extra ticket to a Metallica concert that night, you might feel that standing up Suzy should be understood. And you might think that she is being totally unreasonable to be unhappy with you, once you explain that something better came along.
Another word for “reasons” is “excuses.” Normally, the word “excuses” sounds a little worse than “reasons.” We are all tired of being disappointed by excuses. If you are 14 years old, it is possible you have been hearing excuses for your whole life – 14 years. If you are 40 years old, you probably have been hearing excuses for a lot longer. To most of us some “excuses” are a lot more acceptable than others.
Here are some excuses I think are acceptable for almost any situation regarding DeMolay:
I was a patient in the hospital.
I was at a funeral, wedding, baptism, or graduation for a member of my immediate family.
I was doing something that the Chapter Dad or Chairman had asked me to do at that time, and he was fully aware that it would be a direct conflict with the other event.
I was in class.
I was at work.
I was with my family at a family planned vacation.
Here are some excuses which most of us have heard a lot, and which are pretty weak:
I had postponed doing my homework to the point where I could only do it when I was expected to be at DeMolay.
Reason not so good: Proper time management and planning will permit you to get your homework done and also participate in DeMolay.
I had a concert I wanted to go to.
Reason not so good: Proper time management and planning will permit you to attend many concerts and also participate in DeMolay.
I needed to clean my room.
Reason not so good: Proper time management and planning will permit you to clean your room and also participate in DeMolay.
I was exhausted/tired/weary/worn out.
Reason not so good: Proper time management and planning will permit you to get adequate rest and also participate in DeMolay.
I was grounded.
Reason not so good: Proper behavior will permit you to participate in DeMolay. Misbehavior resulting in grounding is a very poor excuse.
I was broke.
Reason not so good: Proper time management and planning will permit you to have enough funds to participate in almost every DeMolay event. More expensive DeMolay events often have “scholarship” money available. All you have to do is politely and discreetly discuss the situation with the Chapter Dad, the Chairman, or any Advisor. Often solutions can be found by using the Adult resources that DeMolay offers to every member.
I think each of us can add a few more “excuses” we have heard, but the point is, regardless of the excuse, no matter how good it is, still you as a member of the “team” were not there, and somebody else did what you were supposed to do, or it did not get done at all. If somebody else has to “cover” for you too often, you get a reputation for not being dependable. That is a reputation which may take many years to overcome, if you ever do, and the sad part about it is that often you are missing out on the FUN ! If you aren’t there, you obviously are not enjoying the activity, making friends, or learning any thing new.
So, the next time, when you are trying to think up some excuse to “get out of going” – think again. Not only are you letting down your team, but you also are letting yourself down! If the reason you are not going is that the activity truly is no fun, then volunteer to make some new activities that will be fun! That is the great feature of your fraternal order – DeMolay is actually run by its members, and the adults are Advisors.
Believe me, you will get a lot more out of it, the more you participate!
Robert W. Martin J C.O.H.
Master, Los Altos Masonic Lodge No. 712
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